RE: Dealing with arrogant people
DeepSix > 10-15-2017, 06:59 PM
Arrogance is born of excessive self esteem. A close cousin of Narcissism.
Unlike humility, which is displayed when we have a real and accurate understanding of ourselves, and realize we are no better or worse than anybody else - the Arrogant often have no concept of what they are really like, or how they come across to other people.
And I agree with you. Having humility does not mean we allow others to run all over us. It is possible to be very humble and yet at the same time effectively stand your ground.
But that being said, I do my best to have as few dealings as possible with arrogant people. If I could I would have no dealings with them at all. They are a drain on the spirit of everyone around them.
And arrogant people do not effectively stand their ground, though in their own mind they are thoroughly convinced they do. And when it's all over and they have lost their case, or have been proven wrong, they become vicious and attempt to spread the blame around to everyone else. Or they go on a campaign of character assassination against the person they were at odds with, and could not force into submission. Never once having the integrity or the honesty, to admit they were wrong.
But the ironic thing is that the truly arrogant, when deep in their arrogant zone, will label all others who disagree with them as arrogant. Even those that are known for being humble and are simply trying to state their case from a set of facts they have seen proven, or are otherwise certain of.
The arrogant are masters at projection. And to argue with them is futile, while giving in and going along just to get along, can lead you into error, unnecessary heartache, or, at the very worst... disaster.
In the end, arrogant people are best avoided whenever possible. Like the plague that they are.